So, having you here and reading this today is especially meaningful to me. Etc. I thought this year was going in one direction, then it took off in another. Except, are you missing out on something even greater – are you missing out on connecting fully with who you are and the real that comes from knowing you, seeing you, loving you? In fact, you are the first person to express it similarly to the way I do. I’ve recently returned to writing ‘morning pages’ as per “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron, and find it incredibly helpful for tuning in. Christian, Lynn´s Last Fabulous Post ..Looking for food- finding food and wee neighbor. Must I travel far and wide? ... you start to become more fully yourselves with each other and your relationship will become richer.   I’m not sure. Would your … Two of these biases that people use to protect their self-esteem are: 1) Self-Handicapping - before performing a task, individuals often make excuses as to why the task is hard (or impossible) to accomplish. The views more obscured and fewer places of "interest" has made this road less traveled. Omg Lancikins, you are back!! Hi Tia! Where does love live ? The more we love, the more we love. In a world with human emotions and everything that goes with it, unconditional love is no small task. Sure, the person is snug in their world, still feeling good and believing that they "can" get a date. In essence, they can "save face". Click here to sign up to my Facebook page, Email, and RSS. Ha!! Now, when I can see that in myself, it’s like I’m seeing the Divine within…, As I type this, I’m reminded of a book I read last year – “The Shack” – a spiritual novel that was a moving account of the love a greater Being has for me (for you, for us). Ajen, A familiar sight, this big group of boulders, and the trail right around the corner. "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Of course the lessons here are many. Hi Lance, Andrew Walker´s Last Fabulous Post ..Beachbody Coupons. I do get off the trail in other ways and it is fun and can be scary, but that is the fun part. This post has so much wisdom and so many great insights. JD, But, don't make excuses for not saying "hello"! My first thought was, “Lance hasn’t always been this open, loving, embrace-the-world guy we see today? And what a sweet, sweet gift that is. Thanks so much for your very wonderful thoughts…, Hi Lance, (and so much more)  See, I think that intrinsically, we are love. Something (that little voice within) says "go a little further". Nothing makes me love a woman more than tight skimpy clothes that say come and get it. That Buddha was a smart man. Hi Evita, I hadn’t been over to your blog in a while because somehow it disappeared from my blog reader (but now it’s back and I am glad! Jody – Fit at 53´s Last Fabulous Post ..What I See in the Mirror – Part 1. Specifically, love is a feeling produced in the pre-optic area, an area in the anterior hypothalamus that connects to the pituitary gland. 🙂 Again, great post. Wow, this was a fantastic post! In fact, we all do it at times. Nothing makes me love a woman more than hearing all the reasons why I'm such a good friend but noticing me when she needs her car or furnace fixed. but we definately lose that deep connection we have with ourselves and the moment we are in as we get older…..then after a certain point we spend the rest of our days trying to love ourself and our moments as we did when we were younger. Suzen, I know that you ARE love, and what a wonderful place to come from as you focus on helping others with nutritional habits. Are there more divorces in the mid-altantic and other pressure spots? This would allow you to start making an impact in as few as 12 months by earning a Medical Assisting Diploma. After all, we all want to see ourselves in the best possible light. Where ever it starts, all that matters is that we love. A simple example here is the student who makes fun of the "poor kids" in school. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, and it is wonderful having you here in this space. I join you in loving what I am being. Megan, you are love. Until next time...happy dating and relating! Are you passing up individuals for "trivial" reasons. Hi Lance — thanks for this — I think there’s much wisdom in your willingness to acknowledge that there have been times when you haven’t been so loving to yourself — in my experience at least, sharing that sort of thing takes a lot of compassion and trust for myself (in other words, it takes self-love) to do. As a result, these folks miss good opportunities as well. I’ll definitely check his material out! The answer is a lot! Love, Wasn't there something that looked like a path, leading down to where I am? You are more worthy and deserving of your love and kindness than anyone you know. It means being honest, even if it means being vulnerable. To me, self love is the most important kind of love. I have not always been loving (to myself for sure, and to others as well). I know, and I don't notice. You may be asking...what does this have to do with finding love? Delena Do I like myself and what I’ve become? The roles and responsibilities align with your skills and interests, but you’re still left with one question: Where do medical assistants work? In order to stay in control and maintain self-esteem, everyone else "has to" be at least a little bit inferior as a date. What a gift we’ve been given. A devotee gripped by prema bhakti forgets everything; he has no care for his own body, its needs or comforts. In fact, the very boyfriends, girlfriends, and lovers you are looking for might be right under your nose! Does it fall from skies above? The “all” of us – it is all (for lack of a different word) (grin) of what makes up our being. Sibyl, There would be a national news flash that I was lost in the mountain. Breaking that circle, it starts with looking into the deeper recesses of who we are – and being accepting of what is there. Often a term used by bisexuals or those who have no issues with swinging with the same-sex as long as the loving is good! Your message resonates powerfully 🙂 This line really stood out for me in this “self love is connecting with who I am”. 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Lance, I was so touched reading this that I had to read it twice, and then other parts a third time. Right on target Attraction Doctor. Evelyn and I are compiling this report together, and it will be available as a free download soon! Likewise, you love your country, but do not love all countries. Hard to describe. How do we relate to all? Check this box only if you want to be notified of ALL follow-up comments. Your email address will not be published. And as I’m acclimating myself back into this space, I come here with a deeper sense of peace. And this is our life – for each of us. The only problem is that "everyone" is eventually labeled as scary. Good stuff. How could they? Lance: Wow… what an amazing post and what an amazing message. Hi Angela, KCLAnderson (Karen)´s Last Fabulous Post ..A Series of Goodbyes, “Blasphemous” not “blastphemous” LOL!! Frost talks about. Yes, I was momentarily agitated and disoriented, but then the new direction seemed fine. And especially with, as you said, “the imperfect me, formed in perfection” and the so-called dark corners, which I’m learning to love and find grace in. Has the love I feel for myself ever felt like that? Marianne´s Last Fabulous Post ..December Newsletter, Hi Marianne, We always need to take the time to explore ourselves to grow into the person we are meant to be. Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. As women, we are taught to give to others first or at least my generation was taught that & then we get all these messages that we are not good enough… it is a hard road but one that must be learned – still learning! 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And as quickly as it began, this feeling of unsassuredness…it passes. I notice my footsteps..does anything look like what I saw just ten minutes earlier? It’s like an amazing and beautiful circle that just continues to magnify love! Love is such a wonderful thing, and when that love starts from within…I know that the love I share outwardly just feels so much more genuine, so much more real, so much more from my heart…. Who can say where she may hide? One of the most difficult things in the world is accepting who we are and really loving ourselves. That is me, though – all of these parts, and it's so much more than the clearly marked trail (the image we present to the outer world). Got that book, too. When I was in that sandbox, though, I was focused on being in that sandbox. You are awesome! It’s like there is this inherent wisdom in us when we are born…wisdom that connects us to what truly matters (to love). The clearly marked trail and path of Christian. Love definition, a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. This too provides an ego boost. Learn to see the best in yourself and others instead. Ajen´s Last Fabulous Post ..Frenemies. Love It Or List It has been a staple of our HGTV binge-watching for years.The series pits Hilary Farr and David Visentin against one another as they try to convince homeowners to stay in their renovated home, or sell it and move into a new build.. We tune in for a lot of reasons: David and Hilary’s bickering, for one. Let's take a step back. …and I wander off the trail, the nicely marked trail called "my life"…, And I find these amazing things that are me. Giulietta, it is such a joy to have you here and soaking in your very meaningful thoughts. "Where Do I Begin?) I've caught myself rationalizing not approaching females just as you described. They feel good at the expense of love...not because of it. Wait! 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